Psychology: Lastly, is sex that important?Sex is something that has always been closely linked to human life even though in many ways it may contribute to endless controversy. Today, when the Internet is rampant, sex has become a less sensitive topic, however, there is always controversy surrounding it and that is normal. Sex is pleasure and because it involves another person, there are always conflicting opinions about whether it is good to do it in a certain way, whether it is safe under certain conditions, and so on.

 

Everything in our society seems to indicate that sex is at the top of our pyramid of concerns. Is it true? One thing is for sure, reality has some surprises. From the press, which tirelessly provides recipes to increase desire and intensify pleasure, to fashion, which continues to put "desire" above its values, without forgetting the mainstream erotic novel, with endless success, both online pornography such as live sex and dating countless numbers, all seeming to demonstrate an insatiable collective appetite.

 

For many people, there is no greater pleasure in life than that offered by sexuality. Society in general, and the media in particular, consider this too important. However, others argue that sex is a pleasure that can be done without it. The end of fantasy, space for reality.

 

This fact is not surprising to therapists and sexologists who, for the most part, consider social discourse about sexuality to be normative and anxiety-provoking. Often sexuality is experienced as a sporting event and the activity of watching online shows such as live porn. There's this idea of performance, of success, of the need to always go that extra mile, to have the right frequency, the right way of doing things. All this goes back to the question of normality, which arises first in the patient's questions.

 

Everything in our culture and consumer society refers to an instinctual sexuality that most men and women lack. Therefore, it is not surprising that these activities are considered anxiety-provoking and provide less pleasure. Sexual pleasure conditioned on standard knowledge will become a controlled pleasure. Questioning myself about normality %u2013 do I have the right frequency, the right skills? %u2013 is tantamount to asking for instructions, which is a source of anxiety and frustration. Ultimately, this makes us the actors of our surrender. Such an attitude is clearly the opposite of sexual freedom, the opposite of personalized and therefore fully satisfying sexuality.

 

When asked whether sex has become an overvalued activity, a largely incidental accessory to our lives, we need to start by questioning the term itself. "What is the true meaning of sex?" If this is understood solely as a meeting of the genitals, intercourse because it is socially necessary or we have to satisfy the other party, then, yes, of course, we can do without it and find more pleasure in good food or in sleep.

 

On the other hand, if we think of sex as an encounter that truly engages the creature in its desires, and in which these desires are transformed into physical and emotional pleasure, then it seems difficult to live without it. Simply because the enjoyment felt is such that it becomes an encouragement to start again.

 

What is meant by eroticism is desire. Does this mean that the reduced frequency of sexual relations between partners is a sign of their failure in the sexual field? If this "diet%u201D works for both partners, they feel comfortable together and don't feel frustrated or resentful, there are no questions asked. So the key is acceptance and that no party is harmed.